I was listening to a conversation on radio this morning where an RJ was asking people to tell how many times they have heard their family telling them that “This doesn't happen in India”. Well I could so much relate to the reply from people from all across telling their experiences when they tried doing something out of their wish and they were made to shut their mouth. And when they tried asking for a logical reason, the only answer was “Aisa Nai Chalta India Mein”. I mean like really? Aisa nai chalta!
How many times have you been regarded correct when you say these things to them? At least I have got only one reply and that is “This doesn't happen in India”.
1. “It’s OK even if I get married by 35 or 40. It’s totally normal”: Excuse me, this doesn't happen in India. You parents would end up scolding you on the top of their voice, if they hear you saying this. According to our society, everyone should be married by the time they are 30. That’s the threshold. They say “after 30, you will not get good options or maybe you won’t be able to get married ever”. As if everyone who’s unmarried will die after crossing 30.
2. “Let’s not call Uncle Ajay from Mumbai for this wedding”: A guy explained that he asked his mother to invite only those people for his wedding who are in constant tough and avoid calling few guests from different cities who have been totally out of touch for good long time. He got the same reply “Aisa nai chalta India mein”. Do we have a logical reasoning to it?
3. “I want to remain single for the rest of my life”: You will be hanged to death if you say this. This doesn't happen in India along with showers of scolding will be there for you in case you try to ask them the logic behind it.
4. “I want to go to see my friend in London”: Again this doesn’t happen in India. Can anyone explain by what logic? Can’t we go to meet our friends?
5. “I want to go clubbing this weekend”: “India me ye bhi nai chalta”. This is again one of the biggest crimes if your parents get to know that you are planning to go for clubbing this weekend and not to stay at your friends place. In the whole scolding, you will be told ample of times that this doesn't works in India. Can anyone explain why having fun in India is a big crime?
6. “I will wear shots tomorrow at college”: I am sure many girls would have heard their parents telling them not to try wearing shots outside your home. We live in a country, where the police and politicians too say that girls invite guys by wearing short clothes. What else we can expect from our parents when they know it’s not safe at all outside. I don’t blame parents totally on that.
7. “Let me go a pick those stones lying in the middle of the road. This can be accidental for someone”: The most common reply that one of your family members might say “You alone won’t be able to change the society you don’t need to do any such things. This doesn't happen in India”.
8. “Throw trash in the bin”: This is what you hear them saying "Oh common, who does that now? Nothing's gonna change if you do this too. This doesn't happen in India".
9. Girl: "I want to study more and don't want to marry at least till I am 32" : A common reply to this statement would be "This doesn't happen in India. Girls should be married by 25. That's the perfect age. Anyways, Why do you need to study? Your husband will earn for you. You should learn cooking and household jobs.". Again, can anyone give a logic? Why can't girls plan their career and live the way they want to?
These are just a very few statements that will help you get the reply “This doesn't happen in India”. This is a never ending list as our countrymen follow so many rules with no or meaningless logic just to tell you that you are not allowed to do what you want but should follow what others say, despite they have a logical reasoning to it or not!